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Brendan Reid --> Stealing the Corner Office: The Winning Career Strategies They'll Never Teach you In Business School

1)Embrace the changes everyone else hates.

-opportunties for advancement are often ripest in times of turmoil and chaos (e.g. management shakeups) because objectives and jobs are changing but your peers are often at their worst since most people don't handle change well (e.g. go into a shell or fight against changes)
-embrace change as "tactical opportunities" to improve your networking and be extra positive
-NEVER BE TOO PASSIONATE ABOUT YOUR OWN IDEAS --> pushing too hard alienates others, care more about objectivity and what ideas made sense for the company

2)Look for big problems to solve.
-being reliable and consistent is NOT enough to earn a promotion because it doesn't bring the VISIBILITY needed to make it to the top
-if you take on big projects and even sacrifice the reliability of your day-to-day work a little bit to be able to do it, you can put up more points on the board

3)Don't become a "super specialist"
-when you think about improving your expertise, you should focus on expanding your skills vs just deepening them
-when you broaden your skills, others are more likely to see you as a good choice to lead a broader set of people and responsibilities

4)Don't holed people accountable
-we risk becoming difficult to work with when we hold people accountable when they let us down/don't produce quality work/lack of effort negatively impacts us in hopes of getting what we want from them
INSTEAD --> become a mentor and figure out how you can help them become successful
-you'll be seen as a leader instead of simply a taskmaster


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24 hrs - mon june 9th 2014

"Here's a potential solution"
-when you go to the boss with a problem, immediately followup with a proposed solution
-2 things are accomplished --> 1)shows that you are solution-oriented 2) solutions are saving the boss time and energy

"Here's an idea"
-be familiar with the company goals, mission and vision --> have a good understanding of the company's challenges
-spend some time each week working on ideas to solve those challenges --> when you go to your manager to say you have an idea to impact the company's bottom line, everyone wins
-bosses love ideas on how to make things more efficient and more profitable

"Let me show you"
-when pitching something/sharing an idea/solving a problem, show him/her (e.g. flow chart, prototype, something visual)
-when you show you capture two senses --> hearing & seeing
-adding something to hold --> 3 senses
-allows people to react to your idea in a more connected way

"I could use a little mentoring"
-if you need new challenges, want new opportunities, it is up to you to scope those out and present them to the boss
-if you don't know how to do something or think that you could build out your skills even further, it is up to you to ask for mentorship
-when you seek mentorship, even if boss may not be the right mentor, they can be the one who facilitates an introduction
-when you ask for this type of guidance, your boss knows that you own your own experience and will work to support you

You want your boss to say that you are solution oriented, respectful of their time and full of entrepreneurial spirit


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1. You are so handsome

2. Wow, you weren't lying when you said you were hitting the gym

3. I love your (insert color here) eyes. I just get lost in them.

4. You always make me smile!

5. You're the funniest man I've ever met.

6. I always feel safe when I'm around you.

7. You are so handy!

8. It's so nice to see a man who can cook.

9. You are the strongest man I've ever met.

10. Geez, girls can't keep their eyes off of you!

11. Any lady would be lucky to have you.

12. I love the way you (insert something here)

13. I love how you listen and respect me.

14. Wow, you really rock that (shirt, tie, etc)

15. I love spending my time with you.

16. You make me feel beautiful (or appreciated, respected etc)

17. I respect you.

18. You always give the best advice.

19. Your arms look great in that shirt.

20. You really turn me on.

21. What are you wearing? You smell magnificent.

22. You are the manliest man I've ever known.

23. Thanks for helping me ( ...) today. I really appreciate it!

24. Your voice is so deep, masculine and comforting.

25. You really know how to treat a woman.

26. I couldn't be any more comfortable around you.

27. There's something about your smile that gets me every time.

28. You did such a great job at (____).

29. I can't help but smile around you.

30. You always know exactly what to say.

31. I've never seen a man who can (___) quite like you can!

32. Is there anything you CAN'T do?

33. (Insert color here) is really your color! You should wear it more often.

34. Honestly, you are way hotter than Brad Pitt.

35. Hey, can I have a ticket to your gun show?

36. I have never met a man like you. You're genuinely different from the rest and I'm loving it!

37. I love how easy it is to have a conversation with you.

38. You are absolutely charming. I just can't pull myself away!

39. You can fix anything, can't you?

40. Judging by the way you're so sweet and playful with kids, you're going to make a great day one day.

Reference: herinterest.com


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1) Don't get emotionally involved (Passionate but compromise yourself personally)

2) Create segways
-Well what about this . . . .
-Yes, and

3) Divorce concept from individual (remain playful & charming)
I don't think it was "that" but I appreciate it nonetheless
Well you know what, your belief in that was enough for the both of us, I vicariously benefited from what the universe wanted to do for you


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That doesn't make sense


I don't understand. Can you tell me more?


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I can't deal with . . .


I'm struggling with . . . .i was hoping you have some blank skill you can share some . . .


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3 step process

1) Open to criticism physically --> project open body posture (open shoulder, open chest)

2) Clarify the feedback --> so you're saying that the " . . . ." repeat criticism back to person

3) Ask a solution focus question --> so you're saying that the "... is that correct?"
If i can blank, will you then can you blank (ready to do xyz, agree on this, sign off to this)


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3 Navigational Phrases
1) That may be but . . .
2) I understand, however . . .
3) I see your point, and . . .

COUPLE THEM WITH BROKEN RECORD (use the exact same words used a moment ago)


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1) Backtrack – "When you do this . . ."

2) Clarifying question – it looks like you’re trying to (do this), what I’m sensing is that you’re trying to

3) Close ended question – is that your true intention/ is that what you’re trying to do


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